10 Suicide Warning Signs
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“He grabs me suddenly and yanks me up against him, one hand at my back holding me to him and the other fisting in my hair.
“You’re one challenging woman,” He kisses me, forcing my lips apart with his tongue, taking no prisoners.
― E.L. James
Your First Sex Toy
A bullet vibrator will pretty much look like a big silver bullet, maybe two inches long. Some of them come with a cord and remote control, and some of them are just the bullet. A lot of them are waterproof, too—great in the shower. These kinds of vibrators are good for clitoral stimulation and allow your hand to have all of the control. These are great if you need something a little more discrete and you aren’t looking for vaginal stimulation. (It stays on the outside.) A lot of girls like to start with this option.
A full-size vibrator tends to be very phallic in shape (looks like a penis). Some vibrators are exact replicas of a penis, while others are more cylindrical. These tend to require batteries, unless you get a luxury vibe—those are usually rechargeable. These toys offer a little more versatility than a bullet, as you can use them both vaginally and clitorally (inside or just on the outside).
A g-spot vibrator is designed to hit your g-spot (…as the name implies). You’ll want to avoid this toy if you’re not comfortable putting a toy inside yourself. But if you think you’ll like that, then this is definitely the toy to go for. G-spot vibrators are typically long and skinny and have a vibrating ball on the end. This ball is designed to curve directly onto your g-spot to give you the ultimate orgasm. A lot of girls say that g-spot orgasms are a lot more intense than clitoral orgasms. (Now we have your attention, right?) But it has to be something you’re comfortable with.
A dildo is almost always phallic in nature. The whole point of this is to be a fake penis. You can find these in all sorts of sizes and materials. (So you might not want to get the 9-incher for your first time.) I personally recommend glass, as it’s super easy to clean, can be heated up or cooled down, is non-porous, and is super slick. It even looks a little bit like art (…in case you ever want a penis centrepiece on your coffee table). A dildo is going to require a little more work on your end, but this will be the toy for you if it’s the full feeling you’re after. Dildos feel the most like actually having sex. So if you’re wondering what that’s like, this might be an option.
What is True Love?
What is true love? If you have to ask, you haven’t found it yet. But we can tell you what to expect: the feeling that you have already accomplished everything that matters. When you realize you’ve found the person of your dreams, the first “hello” is your happy ending. It’s the realization that everything you’ve been searching for—everything you’ve been hoping for—actually exists. And you’re consumed, not by lust or infatuation, and not by some quixotic notion of romantic fulfillment, but by the simple rhythmic beating of another person’s heart. When you realize the meaning of true love, you become captivated, bound, and destined to a project bigger than yourself. And giving happiness and protection to that person matters, for the first time, more than your own life.
Would you die for her? Would you die for him? Would you give up everything as long as you knew you could be together? If she lost her smile, if he lost his charm—if every spark of attraction were suddenly lost, would you feel the same? Most people will never know what it means to say “yes.” But if you can say, in blatant honesty, that nothing in the world could matter more than the relationship you have, and that there is nothing in the world you wouldn’t give to protect it, then maybe—just maybe—you can answer the question: “What is true love?”
Yet maybe there is no answer. Maybe it’s just a feeling, something we’re not supposed to understand or define. But as long as we can hope for love, as long as we endeavor to meet the void in our hearts that only true love fulfills, the question will remain.
So as long as it does, let’s give it a shot. Would you take a bullet for her? Would you die for him? Do you accept that she will always have flaws? Do you accept that you can’t change him? Would you trust her with your deepest secrets? Could you give him your whole heart, knowing that if he breaks it you will have nothing left? If you can answer yes to all of the above, you’re a hero in the arms of love.
True love means to give and not to expect. It means to trust and not to control. It means to laugh for no reason, to adore with abandon, to dance like you have wings, and to know that sometimes when excitement fades or emergencies arise that there will be duty on your shoulders. And true love is to love no less when hours and days or years must pass of sacrifice. Because the promise of love is made in good times but proven in hardship. So if she lost her legs, if he lost his voice, would your love prevail then? If in the worst of circumstances everything you had learned to adore were suddenly torn away, would you admire her then?
What is true love? It’s a risk. But when you find that person who’s worthy of everything you are, you realize that it was never a choice to begin with. True love is finding somebody who makes everything else worthwhile. And it’s loving that person, not at all for the benefit to yourself, but for the total and unmitigated adoration you have that make it impossible to live any other way.
Being Single on Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is coming up, and you’re single? Yeah. Sucks, right? Everyone around you seems to be in love. You see hearts and cards, romantic verses, smiles, and coupled hands parading in the streets. And what are you going to do on that February 14 evening alone? Spending Valentine’s Day single is even harder if you’ve recently been in a relationship and the pain is still deep from losing someone you loved (or still love). We’re not trying to be downers here—just setting the scene. So here we go: five things to do if you’re single on Valentine’s Day.
1) Take a few minutes to be sad. If you’re not sad in the first place, you can obviously skip this one. What we’re getting at here is being true to your emotions. Moving on and getting things out of your head are great, but take a minute to hang out with your emotions. Don’t be scared to be sad. Cry hardcore for a good fifteen minutes. Look out the window. Listen to a sad song. Remember someone you once loved. Then take a deep breath, remember there’s a humongous world out there, and take it head on.
2) Find single friends. Misery loves company, right? And the right company can make the misery go away altogether. Check Facebook, call some people, and hit up a bar or have a little party in your basement. In the end, you might actually end up having more fun than all your hitched-up counterparts.
3) Tell yourself it’s stupid! Sure, Valentine’s Day has historical significance and all that stuff. But the way we tend to celebrate it these days is a total corporate money-making game. It’s like, “hey, you better spend a lot of money or else you’re not really in love!” Crazy, right? We agree. So relax, it’s just another day. The people in relationships aren’t any happier (in fact, there are more break-ups on February 14 than on any other day of the year), so you shouldn’t be any sadder! Cheer up, buttercup.
4) Celebrate in another way. So you’re not in a relationship. But that doesn’t mean you can’t do Valentine’s Day stuff. (Reader: “Huh, what do you mean?”) Think of anyone who loves you—your mom, dad, sister, brother… your dog—and spend some time with them. You could have a family dinner, go for a walk, get dinner, catch a movie, whatever.
5) Just be happy. “Wow, what a cop-out number five. Did they just run out of ideas?” Nope, we’re serious. Love is definitely one thing to be happy about, but there are tons of others. Think of things that make you happy—maybe a great family, an amazing best friend, concert tickets you might have, other plans for the future… And if nothing immediately comes to mind, then try this: Imagine yourself being absolutely and completely happy. What does your life look like? How can you get there? Setting this goal will give you hope for the future, and it’ll give you something to work towards, too.
We hope you have a fantastic Valentine’s Day whether you’re madly in love or happily single. Just do your thing, live it up. And thanks again for reading.
Why does my vagina smell fishy?
“I have a good friend that told me her ‘down there’ kind of stinks [“why does my vagina smell fishy?!”]. Now she has a boyfriend, they’ve been together for a while and she recently told me that they are thinking of having sex, but shes worried about her down there problem.. i didn’t know what to say because ive never had to experience that.. HELP. lol what do i say?”
First, congratulations on keeping your own vag smelling nice. As for your friend’s, though, not so good… A stinky hoo-ha can be a bit of a turn-off. If you guys end up talking about it again, tell her you found a few tips to help make it smell better:
It’s not supposed to smell like a fresh meadow after warm summer rain (or whatever). So don’t have unreasonable expectations. It’s a vag. And it’s going to smell like one. But hopefully, it can end up smelling like a good vag instead of a fishing boat.
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Anonymous Love Letters
To: Tracy
March 28, 2012. 10:25 p.m.
I hope you won’t be creeped out that I’m sending this anonymously. I promise you that I’m not a stalker or a pervert or someone you hardly know. We may not be the closest of friends and we may not talk more than once or twice a month, and then only in passing comments, but I do consider you a valuable friend. I’ll continue to admire your confidence, strength, beauty, mind and spirituality from a distance probably for the rest of my life.
There is a part of me that tells me I should not write this letter, that it is a mistake to admit my feelings at this point in the game, but I think that’s just the too-proud man or scared little boy in me. That’s why I’m sending this letter anonymously. It’s hard to admit it, but that’s what it comes down to. I’m just scared. I can honestly say that you are my longest-standing crush. Actually, crush is too weak of a word to describe the way I feel about you.
You are an incredible woman, Tracy. I can’t even count the number of times I have thought about approaching you and telling you how I feel about you only to back off like a coward because I have convinced myself you’re way too good for a guy like me. In a few days, it will be too late anyway, I think. Not that I would change the direction my life has gone, but I guess I just had to say something while I felt I still could.
I have memories of you that stand out strong. Nights where you opened my mind just a little more to realms beyond this one. Days when, gathered together with our mutual friends, I did everything I could to impress you, studied up on the meanings of runes then practiced, practiced and practiced just in the hopes of catching your eye. I have memories of your eyes under the stars, so like the stars, the open skies above that wooded sanctuary where we and so many of our friends are able to get in touch with nature, with spirit. I have memories of the way you danced, the way you sway like a goddess in firelight, brilliant and beautiful. I have memories of your words, your experiences, the way you could always see just a little deeper into places I could not, the way you carry your confidence like impenetrable armor, endlessly invulnerable, like a valkyrie standing tall upon the field of battle.
You truly are an incredible woman, Tracy. Even though we’ve never gone any further than friendship, I feel honored to have known you as well as I have. Now that I’ve said my piece, I think I can move on now. Just remember that you’re brilliant, that you’re beautiful and that any man (or woman) would be lucky to share a life with you.
There is more that I want to say, but words escape me, and I’m afraid that if I say much more, I might betray who I am. It’s one of those things where I feel like I have to protect myself from what I want. What if you feel the same? What if you find out who this is and it leads to something? So I guess I’m taking a page from your book now. I’m trusting in the universe. Trusting that I’m making the right decisions, that the future will turn out alright if I just stop trying to control the minutia and focus on the goals.
The goal here is to let you know that you are awesome, that you are incredible and that, should you ever feel down, know there is a man out there somewhere who admires you from afar, smiling whenever he thinks about the happy memories you’ve brought to his life. In my eyes, you will always be one of the world’s great women.
Love always,
Your secret admirer
Forever?
Perfect Love Quotes
Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die, or know that you would die without them… it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world, they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitably consumed within the rhythmic beatings of their very heart. We love them for a million reasons. No words would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling. Only felt.
